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  • Writer's pictureAmy Salgado

Embracing Your Child's Authenticity: A Guide for Latinx Parents of Queer Youth


As a queer, Latina therapist, I have had the privilege of witnessing incredible journeys of love, acceptance, and transformation within families. This includes the journey of Latinx parents accepting and affirming their queer Latinx children. This journey is marked by love, understanding, and the profound importance of providing an inclusive and safe space for your queer youth that is life-saving. This is a letter from my heart to parents of Latinx queer youth who are still struggling with acceptance.


The Power of Acceptance:

I understand that deep cultural values and the opinions of others have shaped your family dynamics and beliefs. However, numerous studies have shown that family support of queer youth is an essential cornerstone to the well-being of queer youth. Supporting your queer child does not weaken family unity; it strengthens it through open, honest, and empathic communication. When it comes to Latinx families, embracing your cultural heritage while affirming the identities of your queer children is a testament to the enduring bonds of love and the celebration of diversity.


Creating a Safe and Inclusive Space for Your Queer Child

  1. Educate Yourself: Knowledge is a powerful tool for understanding and acceptance. Take time to educate yourself about identities, experiences, and issues. Read books, watch documentaries, or attend workshops that provide insights into the challenges and joys of being queer.

  2. Embrace Open and Honest Communication: Initiate open and honest conversations with your child about their identity. Be open to them when they seek you out. Create a safe and non-judgmental space where they feel comfortable sharing their feelings and experiences. Ask questions and listen actively, aiming to understand rather than offering solutions.

  3. Respect Their Pronouns and Identity: Respect your child’s chosen name and pronouns. This is a powerful way to show love and acceptance. If you make a mistake (and mistakes will happen), apologize and correct yourself. Practice, patience, and effort are key.

  4. Seek Support for Yourself: Don’t hesitate to seek support for yourself as a parent. Connect with support groups or seek guidance from therapists. Sharing your experiences with others who have walked a similar path can provide valuable insights and comfort.

  5. Challenge Preconvienced Notions: Reflect and challenge any preconceived notions or stereotypes that you may hold. Recognize that sexual orientation and gender identity are not choices and are not influenced by upbringing or culture.

  6. Connect with LGBTQIA+ events and organizations: Reach out to organizations and resources that offer guidance and support. Many of these organizations offer educational materials and workshops that can assist in the acceptance journey. Attend events that help you gain a better understanding queer culture and history and foster a sense of belonging and acceptance.

  7. Family Therapy: Consider ongoing family therapy sessions that can provide a safe space for the family to share their feelings and work toward greater understanding.

  8. Advocate For Your Child: Advocate for your children, including access to inclusive education and healthcare. Be vocal when necessary, ensuring they receive the same rights and opportunities as their peers.

  9. Patience and Self-Reflection: Understand that the journey toward full acceptance may take time. Be patient with yourself and allow for self-reflection. Acceptance is an ongoing process, and it’s okay to acknowledge your own growth and reflection.

  10. Love Unconditionally: Above all, love your child unconditionally. Remember that your child is the same person you’ve always loved, just not living authentically. Show them that your love is unwavering, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Love them wholeheartedly.


Embrace Your Own Journey of Love and Transformation

Building an accepting and affirming foundation for your queer child is a profound act of love and support. It is a journey filled with challenges, but it is also a journey of immense growth, understanding, and love. As a therapist, I encourage you to embark on this journey with an open heart and a commitment to fostering acceptance and love within your family. By doing so, you offer your queer child the invaluable gift of being embraced for who they truly are. Home becomes a place of safety, understanding, and unconditional love - a sanctuary to be cherished exactly as they are.

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