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Writer's pictureAmy Salgado

Beyond the Bedroom: Foreplay Exists Everywhere



Ok, I’m going to get a little personal with you today. I love foreplay. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Your mind immediately jumps to a sexy scene in a dimly lit room, one involving satin sheets and candles. But foreplay doesn’t just occur in the bedroom and doesn't just occur in the form of sultry glances and intentional touches. Foreplay can also be the exchange of playful banter, the act of giving compliments, and the engagement in shared activities. There’s a misconception in our society that foreplay exists only in the bedroom and only when engaging sexually, but the magic actually starts outside the bedroom. The way partners treat each other outside the bedroom elevates sexual intimacy and can enhance the overall experience in the bedroom. Foreplay can happen anytime and anywhere. It isn’t just confined to the sheets. True intimacy and connection extend far beyond the bedroom. Foreplay isn’t just a physical act; it’s a way to build emotional, mental, and physical connection with your partner throughout your daily life. Foreplay is an ongoing, multifaceted experience that can enrich your relationship and improve your stats in the bedroom.


Foreplay Can Occur in The Most Unexpected Places


Communication Can Never Be Understated

Every meaningful conversation you have with your partner is a form of foreplay for your emotional connection. The ability to listen, offer empathy, and brainstorm solutions goes a long way in establishing that you are a trusted and safe person to your partner and vice versa. Share your dreams, fears, and thoughts honestly and openly. Engaging in effective communication with your partner can nurture your understanding of them and foster a sense of closeness, thus paving the way for more open and honest communication in the bedroom.


Quality Time, Always

Spending quality time together does not require a reservation to that restaurant you’ve been meaning to visit. It’s as simple as trying a new recipe together, enjoying a night in, or taking a walk through the neighborhood. It’s intentional and meaningful time spent together that communicates to your partner that they matter and you enjoy their company. This sets the stage for more profound physical intimacy as it demonstrates that their time spent with you is important and valued.


Compliments and Acts of Appreciation

Small gestures of love and appreciation throughout the day create a sense of anticipation and excitement. Speak kindly to them and sprinkle in words of gratitude often. Try holding hands while on the couch watching Netflix or greet them at the door with a hug when they get home. You’ll start to cultivate a sense of closeness with your partner when you remind them that they love them as they are. This reinforces feelings of attractiveness and desire and reminds us that feeling valued outside the bedroom facilitates how we feel inside the bedroom. These acts of affection build an uncurrent of intimacy, which makes the transition to the bedroom even smoother and enjoyable.


Emotional Support Matters

How we treat our partners in moments of need or success influences our emotional connection. Being a reliable emotional support indicates to your partner that they can count on you. When you and your partner feel emotionally supported and understood, more vulnerability and intimacy can occur in the bedroom.


Final Thoughts

This is your reminder that foreplay is a holistic experience that encompasses every aspect of your relationship. True intimacy isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It is the emotional, mental, and physical connection throughout our daily lives. It’s the opportunity to build a deeper, and more satisfying connection with your partner. The most profound and passionate intimacy often begins with the way we treat each other beyond closed doors. It’s the foundation upon which truly fulfilling intimacy is built.


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