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  • Writer's pictureAmy Salgado

The Power of Boundaries: Cultivating Healthy Relationships


Do you find yourself doing any of the following?

  • Feeling guilty for saying "no"

  • Feeling you have to justify your actions

  • Afraid to tell others your needs/wants

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Understanding Boundaries

Boundaries serve as invisible lines that define where we end and others begin. They can be understood as the limits we set for ourselves. Boundaries act as guidelines that help us establish what is acceptable and what is not, in terms of how others treat us, how we interact with the world, and how we protect our own needs and values.



Why Boundaries Are Necessary

  • Maintaining Healthy Relationships: Boundaries play a crucial role for healthy relationships. They allow us to communicate our needs, wants and limits constructively, while promoting a mutual understanding and respect between you and the other person. Boundaries provide a framework for productive dialogue and negotiation. If conflicts arise, they help establish common ground, which paves way for constructive discussion and finding of solutions. Lastly, they contribute to creating and maintaining trust and emotional safety in relationships. When boundaries are continuously honored and respected, a foundation of security and reliability fosters.

  • Embracing Self-Respect and Self-Care: Setting assertive boundaries signal to the other person that we have self-worth and that we value ourselves. We set a standard for how we should be treated and demonstrate to the other person that it is necessary to maintain a relationship with us. This reduces the possibility of emotional exhaustion and emotional burnout. Boundaries also promote individuality and independence within relationships. They allow each person to maintain their own values and create space for both individuals to thrive. Boundaries are the ultimate act of self-love as they protect our emotional well-being by not becoming overwhelmed by the demands and emotions of others.


How to Implement Boundaries:

  1. Reflect and Identify Your Values and Needs: Take some space to reflect on your personal values, needs, and limits. What do you value? What are your non-negotiable? Increasing your self-awareness allows us to create boundaries that align with your core values.

  2. Use Assertive Communication: You’re allowed to be clear and direct when communicating your boundaries. Use “I” statements to express your needs and expectations, emphasizing how their behaviors affect you. Be assertive, yet kind, in your communication, without apologizing for asserting your limits.

  3. Become Comfortable With the Word “No:” Saying no demonstrates to the other person that you are not willing to go against your values or be taken advantage of. This is a powerful tool for protecting your time, energy, and emotional health.

  4. Recognize Your Warning Signs: If a situation or relationship leaves you constantly drained or disrespected, it’s important to consider whether you’re boundaries are being violated.

  5. Embrace Self-Care: Determine and practice activities that replenish your energy and nurture your well-being. Taking care of yourself regularly is a vital step in connecting with ourselves and setting us up to thrive.


Remember, healthy boundaries are a shared responsibility. They promote meaningful relationships built on trust, mutual respect and individual well-being. They can create deeper connections with loved ones and allow for clear expectations. You are not selfish to use boundaries, instead you are granting yourself permission to be seen and heard.


What is one small way you can start practicing your boundaries?



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